Being Human

There’s Gonna Be Some Changes Around Here
I’ve been forging my shiny new iron fist and intend to wield it mercilessly on properly informed violators. The purpose…
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Please Help Me Build Something
NOTE: I try hard to not ask you for things. That’s not how I want this relationship to work. But…
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BREAKING: Someone Called Me ‘Jesus-Like,’ My Mother’s Head Explodes
“I’ve got nothing against God. It’s his fan club I can’t stand.”  — Unknown athiest … I was having a…
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How to be Less of an Asshole in Life and Relationships
Sometimes I’d walk into the living room to find my wife watching 16 and Pregnant or some other TV show…
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Hey, Can We Talk About a Few Things?
The irony has never been lost on me. Some divorced guy who shortchanged his marriage offering something that looks and…
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How to Have a Good-Enough Relationship
“What *is* enough?” she asked. Fair question, I thought, since I’d just written a list of things that WERE NOT…
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Are You Paying Attention?
I think about how we treat the people and things that matter most. The way we “Maybe later, kiddo” our…
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Diagnosing Relationship Failure is Not for the Self-Assured
The white hair and calloused hands with a couple of missing fingertips darkened by sun, dirt and every type of…
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This is Where Everything Changed
It was unexpected. It really was. This is where everything changed. That’s where I met my wife. That’s my old…
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Life & Love: When Basketball is More Than a Game
Six years ago, I sat in stunned silence on the edge of my living-room sofa with my hands covering the…
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