Matthew Fray

The Secret to Life and Marriage
No. Not again. It’s a dull, pulsing pain that starts in my stomach and runs to the bottom of the…
Read More Comments 17
The Thing About Stepparents
My parents divorced when I was 4, and twice a year all the way through high school, my parents met…
Read More Comments 42
Maybe It’s Time to Leave
My ex-wife reads this blog and probably often thinks: “Fuck that fucker,” even though she’s pretty nice to me most…
Read More Comments 55
An Open Letter to Shitty Husbands, Vol. 10
Get my latest writing! Sign up  for my weekly-ish email newsletter to get my latest writing. Discover new ideas, skills,…
Read More Comments 157
How to Achieve Your New Year’s Resolutions
I was going to write a book. I was going to get in the best physical condition of my adulthood.…
Read More Comments 24
The Bad Rules 
I handed the barista a $20 bill because I wanted to break it and leave her a tip. “Thank you…
Read More Comments 19
Must Be This Old To Ride
I wasn’t particularly confident or unconfident when I was a kid. But something changed mid-high school, and whatever social fears…
Read More Comments 22
Everything’s Going to be Okay
“I’m struggling today,” she said. Her kids are 500 miles away. The mandatory waiting period for her state to finalize…
Read More Comments 32
Cancelling ‘The Interview’: Terrorism, Tough Choices and Madmen
A man holds a gun to your child’s head in one hand. He holds a gun to your spouse’s head…
Read More Comments 18
Everything Will Change
I wasn’t allowed to watch MTV or Beverly Hills, 90210 or go to boy-girl parties like the rest of my…
Read More Comments 21
Scroll to Top
Matt Fray

Get my latest writing!

Sign up for my free weekly email newsletter as I continue an on-going exploration of love and relationships.