Why Relationship Arguments Can Actually Be Good Things (Video)
Conflict or disharmony was something I went out of my way to avoid when I was married. The idea I was blind to, was how critical the Repair process is in a relationship. When we don't actively engage in Repair, trust and intimacy are never restored as fully as they were before. Arguments, or disagreements, or even emotionally uncomfortable conflict can actually be really good for your relationship. It's about mindset, awareness, and relational skill building.
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Do You Really Know Your Spouse or Relationship Partner? (Video)
In today's video, we're discussing the idea of knowing your spouse or relationship partners.
Why Your Spouse is Never Happy No Matter What You Do (Video)
Many people (usually men) type into internet search engines: “my wife is never happy no matter what I do.” I remember thinking and feeling things just like that. In today’s video, I talk about how the sneaky erosion of safety and trust in relationships might be responsible for your spouse or partner appearing to be unhappy with you, no matter how much good you believe you’re doing.
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Not Afraid to Step Into the Fight When We Can’t See the Light
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