Relationships

Is ‘Happy Marriage’ a Myth?
Deanna asked: “I’m sleeping alone after 5 years of marriage for the second time to the same man. Yes, the…
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Surprise! I Don’t Completely Suck
“The more you suffer, the more it shows you really care. Right? Yeah!” — The Offspring … Some people think I…
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No Bullshit: Gratitude Changes Everything
If you’re anything like me (and pretty much every other person, ever) you have countless memories of looking forward to…
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Maybe Pain and Misery is the Only Way
I was drinking a lot of vodka to numb the pain. Not scary amounts. Nothing dangerous. But I was using…
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Why Marriage Counseling is a Bad Idea, Vol. 1
A wife asked her husband to read my ‘Shitty Husbands’ posts, which happens more than I’d like. (Because passive-aggressively telling…
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Do People’s Feelings Matter? That Depends.
I once wrote that feelings are bullshit. Except I wrote it more dramatically: “Feelings. Are. Bullshit.” That probably seems rich…
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Divorced Parenting Requires a New Kind of Love
Oreoanonymous asked: I have been watching the struggle of my mother’s partner from his point of view, with only small…
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Check Out This Other Thing
A very funny person named Mandi Castle, author of the recently released “Dear Stephanie,” and self-proclaimed “worst sisterwife,” invited me…
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The Human Experience
I want to have sex with her. But I’m also afraid she’ll think I’m no good at it and tell…
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Your Kids Are Going to Get Divorced Unless We Fix This
I’ve written and published more than 400 posts here. Many of them are about divorce and marriage because divorce was…
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