Stuff I Want to Help Others With

Being Nice Isn’t Enough
For years, I wouldn’t hear it. The complaining. Some men call it “nagging.” Or “bitching.” Or “PMS-ing.” She must be…
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It’s Okay to Hurt
Sarah was just a child when she lost her big sister. A gorgeous 17-year-old. Stricken with cancer. Died in her…
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A Glimpse
There’s a U.S. military arsenal not far from where I live—adjacent to the small township in which my ex-wife grew…
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Two Parts Hydrogen, One Part Oxygen
Even holed up in a hospital bed for the first time since 1970, my father was still sympathetic to my…
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How to Feel Grateful, Vol. 3
The bitter cold moved in throughout the evening Monday. Even with the house thermostat set to 71 degrees, and the…
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An Open Letter to Shitty Husbands, Vol. 5
“So what you are saying is, I need to help you around the house and with the kids whether I…
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The Pursuit of Happiness
People chase money. They chase sex. Fame. Status. They chase adventure. Education. Fitness. People chase fun. Friendship. Spiritual peace. ……
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The Fantasy Life, Vol. 3
Not unlike some overdue library books I kept far too long, my fantasy football teams in 2013 were a reflection…
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How to Be a Man, Vol. 2
It was about 5 a.m. this morning when I discovered a subgroup of people I seriously didn’t know existed. The…
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How to Change the World
“I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a…
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