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How Marital Affairs Happen: The Beautiful Stranger I Wanted to Sleep With While I Was Married
Because I am sometimes a walking cliché who struggles with controlling negative emotion, I found myself sitting at a bar…
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The Friday Reclamation Project
Five years ago today, I didn’t want to go home. Our entire lives, most of us look forward to weekends.…
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Sorry You Asked
I took down the MBTTTR “Ask Me Stuff” page because someone email-yelled at me about a large amount of unanswered…
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Divorce or Stay? Using Direct vs. Circumstantial Evidence to Decide
There’s direct evidence that I was a crap husband and that my ex-wife made the right choice in ending our…
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8 Ways Good People Invalidate Their Partners and Ruin Relationships
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The 4th Wedding Anniversary (That Wasn’t)
Yesterday would have been lucky-number 13. My wife and I celebrating 13 years of marital bliss. Only we didn’t. Because…
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Please Help Me Answer These Important Questions
Of the many questions sent to my email inbox (some of which go unanswered—I’m so sorry for that), there are…
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What to do When Your Spouse Isn’t Your Soulmate
The person you’re married to—or will marry one day—isn’t your soulmate. [Insert very dramatic orchestra music here.] It sucks, I…
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The Secret to Long-Term Compatibility in Dating and Marriage Isn’t How Alike We Are
com·pat·i·bil·i·ty noun a state in which two things are able to exist or occur together without problem or conflict. a…
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How Trying to ‘Fit In’ Can Ruin Your Life and Marriage
As far back as I remember, I was taught that some human behaviors are so bad that if you do…
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