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Why Relationship Arguments Can Actually Be Good Things (Video)
Conflict or disharmony was something I went out of my way to avoid when I was married. The idea I was blind to, was how critical the Repair process is in a relationship. When we don't actively engage in Repair, trust and intimacy are never restored as fully as they were before. Arguments, or disagreements, or even emotionally uncomfortable conflict can actually be really good for your relationship. It's about mindset, awareness, and relational skill building.
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Do You Really Know Your Spouse or Relationship Partner? (Video)
In today's video, we're discussing the idea of knowing your spouse or relationship partners.
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Why Your Spouse is Never Happy No Matter What You Do (Video)
Many people (usually men) type into internet search engines: “my wife is never happy no matter what I do.” I remember thinking and feeling things just like that. In today’s video, I talk about how the sneaky erosion of safety and trust in relationships might be responsible for your spouse or partner appearing to be unhappy with you, no matter how much good you believe you’re doing.
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Are You Afraid When the Elevator Doors Open?
(Image/The Belltower – the Mount Aloysius College student newspaper)A friend of mine—female—was in a work meeting with a bunch of…
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Maybe Your Marriage Sucks Because You Don’t Really Know Your Spouse
I never really knew my wife even though we were married for nine years and together for 13. Not because…
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Love in the Time of Coronavirus
So I’ve been thinking about this virus going around. You know the one. I’m scheduled to turn 41 later this…
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Taking the Wheel Vs. Destroying Our Marriages on Autopilot
The word ‘habits’—at least for me—conjures images of working out or smoking or biting my fingernails. People talk about developing…
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Save Your Marriage Using the Monster-Under-the-Bed Theory
Imagine getting a phone call. You answer. A stranger on the other end of the line identifies his or herself…
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Where to Find Solutions to Your Relationship Problems
The best places to look for solutions — to any significant problem you may face; not just relationship problems —…
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The Art of Getting to Tomorrow When Everything’s Wrong
It was exactly like those initial weeks after divorce. I couldn’t describe what was wrong. None of my feelings made…
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