Grade School Shenanigans, Vol. 2: He Did What!?!?

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It's important to me that my son not behave like this man. Nor like me.
It’s important to me that my son not behave like this man. Nor like me.

The two most-commonly told jokes in men’s restrooms among both acquaintances and strangers, go like this:

“Oh, so this is where all the dicks hang out.”

And, the one that always makes me laugh…

“Whew! That water is cold!”

The implication being, ladies, that the penises in question are so long that they dangle into the urinals or toilets below.

Penis jokes are at the very heart of who we are as men. They must be told. They must.

But appropriateness matters.

There is a time for decorum. And there is a time for air humping random objects.

The key is knowing the difference.

Everything He Needs to Know, He’ll Learn This Year

Dear Son,

Kindergarten Lesson #1: Do not expose your penis to other children. Because when you do, the teacher freaks out, the principal freaks out, the day care lady freaks out, and your mother freaks out.

And then I have to hear about it. And I have to punish you. And I have to talk about penises with you.

While I totally want to talk about penises with random people on the Internet and joke about them with friends, I do not really want to talk about them with you. It’s awkward. For both of us. But it looks like that’s going to have to happen, young man.

Which sucks balls.



So, yeah. That happened.

Yesterday at school, while some of the boys were in the bathroom, my son called attention to his penis, made a joke about it, and showed it to some kids, probably while dancing around and singing a little made-up song about it.

Unfortunately, I know exactly what that song and dance looks like because I’ve seen it at bath time.

I try to have mature conversations with him about appropriate behavior. Apparently, they didn’t take.

While I’m a huge proponent of adults making immature penis jokes, I do not want to sound like I’m not taking this seriously at school. I really, truly am.

1. He MUST follow rules. All of them. Even the stupid ones. Not playing with his penis in front of other children is NOT a stupid one.

2. While I’m not concerned about my beautiful, sweet, innocent son growing up to be a pervert or sexual deviant or some other horrible thing based on this incident, it’s not lost on me that Charles Manson, and Ted Bundy, and Jeffrey Dahmer all had moms and dads that probably didn’t want them growing up to be plagues on humanity also. So, I must be vigilant. I must be careful. I must use discernment. I must be wise. Some things are awesome. Some things are okay. Some things are horrible. Being a person who—uninvited—exposes their privates to others, is something I frown upon. (Understatement.)

One of my dearest friends assures me this won’t happen again. That this will be a good lesson for him. That it will sink in and correct the behavior.

I hope she’s right.

The Naked Trail Runner

When I was still a newspaper reporter, I became friends with another newspaper reporter.

She invited me out with one of her friends one night for drinks and hot wings.

We ate. We drank beer. We swapped stories.

This guy was great. Very nice. Very funny. Appreciated my brand of humor.

I liked him and was looking forward to being friends with him.

But then I heard a story.

There are many hiking and biking trails peppered throughout the area in which I live. A vast network of interconnected metro park and national park trails. I really like them.

One time, a young woman was running on one of the trails—maybe 10 minutes from my house.

And allegedly, the following happened:

She was running. Like a normal person. On a public trail. When all of the sudden, a tall redheaded guy came out from the woods totally naked and ran after her.

No attempted assault or anything. Just a random naked guy doing his best to expose his naked body to a random runner for as long as possible.

A police report was filed. One thing led to another, and the police ended up at my co-worker’s friend’s house. The guy I just met and totally liked.

He claims to have a good alibi. Computer login records and whatnot, proving it couldn’t have been him.

But a judge nonetheless found him guilty of this very crime. So, there was evidence.

Evidence that he took all of his clothes off and ran after a strange woman in a public place.

Dear God.

I try very hard to be understanding, forgiving, to give people the benefit of the doubt and not be judgy.

But in the end, I wasn’t going to pursue a friendship with a man found guilty of this behavior—even though I didn’t know for sure whether it really happened. I just couldn’t.

Exposing yourself to strangers is a very bad idea.

I don’t do it.

I don’t want my friends doing it.

And I’m going to require that my son not do it.

Just Keep It Put Away, Young Man. Honestly.

I’ll pick him up after work tomorrow.

That’s when we’ll have to have The Penis Talk.

Here are things you may do with your penis, son: Blah, blah, blah, blah.

And here are things you may NOT do with your penis: Blah, blah, showing it to people, blah.

Inevitably, the question will arise: Where, pray tell, did that little boy learn how to expose his penis to other people? Do you think his father taught him that?

Remember that old marijuana-smoking commercial? I learned it from watching you, dad!

Sweet Jesus.

My ex-wife. His school teacher. The day care lady.

They’re probably all sitting around thinking: Do you think he thinks it’s okay to play with his penis and make jokes about it because of his father?

Then, they will all sit there nodding. Nodding and judging.

And I’ll just shake my head.

Because I’ve been known to make a dick joke a time or two. But my son has never heard one. (This is true.)

Come to think of it, I’m pretty sure no evidence exists linking me to childish penis jokes at all. (This is not true.)

Yes. I'd been drinking.
Yes. I’d been drinking.

Lord, please make me a better father. Amen.

27 thoughts on “Grade School Shenanigans, Vol. 2: He Did What!?!?”

    1. Thank you! I hope people realize that I take my job as a father seriously. Despite every indication that I’m a large child in all other facets of my life.

  1. Oh Matt, you crack me up. I wish I wasn’t compelled to read your posts during the day. My employees hear me laughing at my desk and know that I’m goofing off. I blame you for my not setting a better example!! 😛

  2. Funny!! Especially because I had to have this talk with Erik because when he about four we had spent several months at my parents house (a farm) and my dad and all the men routinely pee out in the fields if they are too busy/far from the house and when we moved into base housing in NC Erik felt if he was too busy playing/far from our house he could do the same. Oops.
    And, that is a great picture. The industrial size condom! And so colorful. =D

  3. People only have to read your posts to know that you take parenting seriously. It’s great though to see that you can find humor in the situation as well. This is too funny!!

    1. Thank you.

      Question: Do you and I know each other in real life?

      The beautiful thing about this question is that I’ll be embarrassed by every possible answer.

  4. Unfortunately no…which is a bummer because you seem like an awesome guy! 🙂 I’m from northern Ohio, but I currently live in Cincy.

    Is that answer better or worse than you were expecting? HaHa!

  5. My son once whipped it out and peed right in front of everyone at bible school… he has since turned out pretty good, although I’ll admit I was worried for a while there.
    LOVE THE PIC!!!!
    And doesn’t everyone joke about penises? Small ones, funny ones, big ones, lack of penis… it’s just part of being human.

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  12. I’ve been reading your posts all morning and finding so hard to believe someone else is / has been going through all the same shit I’ve been going through in this shitty divorced world. Yep, Divorced Dad here – yep online dating is shitty – yep, I thought I was going to run out and party and sleep with everyone and that would be fun … until I realized I’m a better person then that … and that can get lonely.

    This post is over the top though – Been in this exact position – Oh … the looks you get!!! …and the things you imagine your ex must be saying …

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