Discover How to Have Healthy and Successful Relationships
From author, blogger and relationship coach Matthew Fray—a.k.a. the guy who found out too late
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About the Book
Most relationships end with a whimper, not a bang.
Just as health professionals from yesteryear were compelled to sound the alarm regarding the dangers of smoking tobacco to a then-unaware public, This is How Your Marriage Ends is here to help raise awareness regarding the seemingly benign behaviors we do with little to no thought that kill love and trust in relationships.
A resource for couples who are dating before marriage, who are currently married, or for people who divorced and want to know why, This is How Your Marriage Ends will help people identify relationship-killing behavior patterns and communication habits in their own lives, and point them toward resources that can help them break free from the cycles of dysfunction that commonly crop up and ruin relationships.
Matt Fray bravely takes us on a tour of the male brain in relationships and how we can become our own worst enemy. This Is How Your Marriage Ends is the book we have been waiting for—an entertaining, honest, and truly practical guide for saving our relationships.
— Justin Baldoni, actor, producer, director, and bestselling author of Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity
The home can be deceiving because it presents so small (like dishes being left by the sink) and Fray beautifully unpacks this. This funny and poignant memoir and how-to evolves into a beautiful exposition on partnerships, love, and unpaid labor.
— Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)
Matthew Fray’s book—at turns sobering and inspiring, heartbreaking and hilarious—gets to the root of questions that can make or break a life partnership. Read it, heed it, act on it—for yourself and for the one you love.
— Warren Berger, bestselling author of A More Beautiful Question
Matt has a way of lacing truth with humor. He puts words to the human experience in a way that allows us to feel not only witnessed, but also to have hope rise from our all-too-common relational tragedies.
— Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and Founder of Create the Love
An important book! Especially for men who rarely talk openly about their divorces. Matt's approach is refreshing and much needed in our world. He shines two lights, a black light over why marriages fail but also sunlight by injecting hope and encouraging couples to take ownership.
— John Kim, bestselling author of Single On Purpose
Meet Matt
Matthew Fray is a relationship coach, blogger, and author of This is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships.
My marriage ended in 2013. It involved a lot of sobbing, self-loathing, and feeling sorry for myself. A drunken phone call with a phone-a-therapist prompted me to “journal my feelings,” only instead of writing in a private journal like an adult, I drank more alcohol and published it to the internet.
I found new life and purpose blogging about the end of my marriage, discussing relationships with others, and self-reflecting on how my own beliefs and actions contributed to my family’s demise. A bunch of people said it looked, sounded, and felt just like their marriage, and we all had a holy shit moment together, realizing collectively that our relationship conflict and trust-erosion patterns are all pretty much the same.
That journey blossomed into a new career as a relationship coach, and then, an opportunity to write a book.
I’m the divorced guy who got a tiny bit famous for leaving dishes by the sink. But it turns out it was never really about the dishes.
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